You Gotta Seek “The Man” to be a Man

Funny how as I get older and wiser… ok older, how I look at myself and the man, husband and Dad that I’ve become. Why do I think and feel the way I do about my… government, laws, rules, what others say, think and why they may not see things the way I do. Basically all of the things that in my younger years I could have cared less about, but somehow these things have become things that I am very passionate about. Are these things important? Sure they are, and it’s up to me as a Christian man to stand up to what I believe is right in the eyes of the Lord and whether it lines up with the truth of the Bible.

The title of my Blog is “You gotta seek “The Man” to be a Man”. So what’s that got to do with what I’ve said so far? Good question! This I guess is where I take a turn in my thoughts, but hopefully you’ll see where I’m going with it.

Sure all of these things are extremely important, but what’s Really important in our lives? For me it’s God, Family and the Radio Ministry (my job) in that order. Since I have a “Job” that is in ministry, I tend to put that in the God first portion of importance, which it shouldn’t be but seems to end up there. Then of course that moves the Family in that 3rd position of importance and like most husbands and Dads, we try to justify it and say “I’ll make time sweetheart, I promise” and of course we try but don’t because we think we can’t. Right or wrong that’s what most of us husbands and dads do.

Part of my “job” at “The Pulse” is choosing Music with A Message”, the message of the love we find through Jesus Christ. As I was sitting with my Music Director Chuck the other day, he started playing a new song from Sanctus Real called “Lead Me”. By the time the song was over, I had tears pouring down my face. A grown man, 45 years old crying over… A SONG! Why? This is my job, sure I hear sappy songs all the time, but this time… this one was different… IS different. The story, the words, they made me realize that I am not the husband nor am I the Dad that my family should expect and deserves. Check out the lyrics then ask yourself the question “Is this who I am, is it who I’ve become”? Read the lyrics then join me at the end for a wrap-up

 
Lyrics: Sanctus Real "Lead Me"
I look around and see my wonderful life
Almost perfect from the outside
In picture frames I see my beautiful wife
Always smiling
But on the inside, I can hear her saying

"Lead me with strong hands
Stand up when I can't
Don't leave me hungry for love
Chasing dreams, what about us?

Show me you're willing to fight
That I'm still the love of your life
I know we call this our home
But I still feel alone."

I see their faces, look in their innocent eyes
They're just children from the outside
I'm working hard, I tell myself they'll be fine
They're independent
But on the inside, I can hear them saying

"Lead me with strong hands
Stand up when I can't
Don't leave me hungry for love
Chasing dreams, what about us?

Show me you're willing to fight
That I'm still the love of your life
I know we call this our home
But I still feel alone."

So Father, give me the strength
To be everything I am called to be
Oh, Father, show me the way
To lead them
Won't you lead me?

To lead them with strong hands
To stand up when they can't
Don't want to leave them hungry for love
Chasing dreams that I could give up

I'll show them I'm willing to fight
And give them the best of my life
So we can call this out home
Lead me, 'cause I can't do this alone
Father, lead me, 'cause I can't do this alone

See what I mean? If you don’t get some sort of emotion from what was just
written in the lyrics above, please contact me because I want to pray with
you!

I’d love to see every man whether you’re rich or poor, Christian or not to look around and see what you have made become more important than your wife, the one you used to look into her eyes with that excitement! Remember? Every time you were around her, you couldn’t wait to see her again, to be with her! You wanted to be with her so bad that you decided that you couldn’t be without her so… you married her! And remember when your child was born? When your wife squeezed your hand so hard from the pain it left claw marks in your hand? Then seeing that jet black hair of that tiny baby come out only to be taken away immediately because there was something wrong… you didn’t think to pray, you just worried. Where’s that passion for your family today? Go back up and read the lyrics again… go ahead we’ll wait for you!

Your wife and children need you, want you and expect you to be the husband and the Dad that you should be. Loving, Caring, Strong, Responsible, Always there for them and the list goes on and on. Gentlemen, we as husbands and Dads have an enormous gift of responsibility that has been given us and frankly we’re messing it up! In the song “Lead Me”, if you notice it comes full circle. Your wife and children are asking you the Husband, The Father to “Lead them with strong hands, to Stand up when they can’t, Don’t leave them hungry for love Chasing your dreams, what about us? Then YOU, asking your Father above to do the same for you. We have to learn we can’t do it alone, we need Him!

Brothers, there is so much more I want to say, but as most people tell me “You Talk too much”! The problem is , when I see my faults like this I know there are others out there just like me… that need to be held accountable just like me and I feel like I have to shout it out to get peoples attention so we can do what God has asked us to do for our families. It’s time to quick thinking about ourselves and what we want, but to understand what they need and they want and to guide them to have that special relationship with the Father above. We need to quit trying to do it on our own and to seek God to Lead us to Lead them, for Him to be strong for us when we can’t be, after all we can’t do this alone.

It wouldn’t be right if I didn’t end with a special heartfelt message to my wife and children, I guess you could call it an apology of sorts for the way I’ve been in the past. I’ve gotten a lot better over the years but I still have my moments. I promise you in front of God and the rest of the world, that I will do my best to be the husband and daddy you deserve. I will always do my best to seek God for my strength and direction to lead you with strong hands.  I hope and pray the rest of the husbands and Dads reading this make that same committment to their wives and children! In other words gentlemen the only way we can make it in this world is…
“You Gotta Seek the Man… to be a Man

God Bless,
Tim Norton

Advertisement